You have unlimited choiceOne of things that I absolutely love about being human, is our ability to choose. We are surrounded by choices every day, every hour, every second and every millisecond; from deciding whether you should stay in the job you don't like, but it pays the bills, to whether or not it is an appropriate time to fart. Choices are everywhere. It's amazing, this realization I have come to, that we are literally in abundance of choice. It's amazing to me because for so long, I felt so limited and so far from 'the world is your oyster'. Why can't life just work out so I can get what I want? It's so hard to choose myself when there is so much other stuff going on, right? Wrong. You are choosing to put yourself second and your problems first. Yes, there are problems coming up all of the time, and we each need to face these problems, but you're kidding yourself if don't think that you and your dreams aren't your top priority. Choose you, and you will ignite your life into a life you love. The Illusion that we have no choice: Just a Good ExcuseIt's so easy to get lost in the mind-set that you have no choice. It's too hard, there's so much paperwork, you don't have enough money, there's just not enough jobs around at the moment, you're just so tired, no one else will like it, you have too many commitments. Yes, these are certainly obstacles one must over come, but they're really all just big FAT EXCUSES. Any excuse to not have the personal responsibility to take yourself further, any excuse to remain in your comfort zone, any excuse to not face your fear of success or to take that vital first step that could surely lead to failure. Why are you afraid of failure? Why are you afraid of success? Why are you afraid of discomfort? No one can take away your freedom to make a choice, but you. So why do you care about what other people think? if life is gonna be a bitch anyway, why not embrace this new kick-ass attitude and go with the flow? People pleasers: You can't choose you and please everyoneWhen I was 19 years old I had extremely low self-esteem and I desperately wanted to be liked and accepted by everyone else. I was so afraid of not belonging or not being loved that I would completely reject anything that I wanted so that I could please someone else. I was at the bottom of the list and so were my dreams...slowly being forgotten. 'What movie do you want to see Britt?' 'I don't mind, I'll like whatever you want to see'. 'I'm ordering food, got any suggestions Britt?' 'I'm happy with whatever you want'. 'What music do you want me to put on Britt?' 'Put on that quirky metal band that you like' I passed off what I desired and what I liked as an individual for so long that I became so deprived, that I actually had no idea what I enjoyed at all. I went completely numb and there was nothing individual about me. I felt empty. I was depressed and lost. And the worst part was that no matter how much I succeeded in pleasing everyone else, I felt more lonely than ever. Because what does belonging matter if you have forgotten who you are? Choose you and you won't have to worry about who else is in your life. The right people will be attracted to who you are Signs you are a people PleaserPeople pleasing is full of good intentions but if inner peace, happiness and a life that you love are your goals, it will never work. Because to attempt to please everyone else means that you will never come first. In case you might not be aware, here are some signs that you are a people pleaser:
So you gonna keep making excuses or will you take back your life?The first step is to ask yourself whether or not you are happy to continue living your life half asleep (comfort zone), in a slow zombie state or if you actually want to feel like you are living? Life is supposed to be full of ups and downs and it is supposed to feel like you are constantly on the edge of your seat. It has been like this my entire life, whether I wanted it to or not. So if life is gonna be a bitch anyway, why not embrace this new kick-ass attitude and go with the flow? I know that it can be scary sometimes and I know that there are lots of people and governments and companies telling us that we should be afraid and that everything is really difficult. In many ways we have every right to feel scared and life is really hard...but I tell you what, it has been an incredible journey since the day I decided to trust myself in this roller coaster called life. Life is an Adventure: start treating it that wayIf you choose to see life like a fight to the death, then you're daily commute to work will certainly feel like you're driving to the grave. On the other hand, choose to see life as an adventure and be a real life Indianna Jones, then suddenly nothing will go wrong anymore. Everything difficult that comes at you is more like a quest rather than a problem. Each quest giving you skills and qualities that will take you to the final battle, and you'll be ready for anything. Commit 100% to youWant to start living your dream life? Then choose to start living the life that you love right now. Commit 100% to you, your dreams and desires. choose you
- Try to start caring about what you think. You do matter, you are important, so start thinking and start acting like you do.
- Eat good food, stay clean, have a good laugh when you can, look for fun and joy and book yourself that massage more regularly. You deserve it.
Take that Indianna Jones leap of faith! It's worth it. Above all, choose you
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AuthorMy name is Brittney and my life pursuit has been that of self-improvement and growth. It took me a long time to realize that I don't really fit into societies model that you need to go to school, find a career, strive to be extremely succesful to then get married and have kids, ever acquiring material objects. There is nothing wrong with this model at all and for those who can embrace this with whole-hearted happiness, keep going with it. Archives
August 2017
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