Heartbreak feels like a part of you has gone missing. Heartbreak feels like there is a void occupying your chest. Heartbreak challenges your worth and you question if you were ever worthy of love. You sob to yourself 'how on earth will I get through this?' You taunt yourself about the ways that you are not good enough. You judge yourself for being so stupid. One feels heartbreak physically in their body, in their heart and deep in their stomach. There is nothing wrong with feeling heartbreak – however painful - it's when you try to think yourself through a heartbreak that you might lose yourself. You will never find inner peace with a victim and a judge on your shoulder. If you feel like crying, let your tears flow truthfully and authentically. If you need to wrap yourself up into a ball on the floor to comfort yourself, then do so with warmth and love STEP 1: RECOGNISE YOUR VICTIM AND YOUR JUDGeThe biggest culprits for a long and difficult heartbreak are your inner judge and your inner victim. Your inner judge and victim are apart of your ego; they are toxic and they will attempt to steal your identity by making you question your self-worth. Did you really deserve to know this person? How did you ever survive without them? Who even are you, without them?
If you listen to these parts of you, then you will never find peace or growth. Learn to recognise and become aware of when you are pitying or judging yourself. STEP 2: STOP LISTENING TO YOUR VICTIM AND YOUR JUDGE The solution is simple; stop listening to them. Do not indulge in these thoughts that question your worth and validity; by listening and believing in these thoughts, you are allowing your inner Judge and inner Victim to live on inside you. Stop taking them seriously and they will eventually dissolve away. If you catch yourself judging yourself or victimizing yourself;
STEP 3: FLOW LIKE WATER AND EMBRACE YOUR GRIEF Grief is very real and should not be suppressed; you are not weak by feeling emotions of deep hurt. If you feel like crying, let your tears flow truthfully and authentically. If you need to wrap yourself up into a ball on the floor to comfort yourself, then do so with warmth and love. If you feel anger and rage then growl and run and find a bag to punch. The important thing to note is to never dwell in your grief. If you dwell in a destructive thought pattern created by your victim or judge ego then you are not releasing anything, you are creating more problems for yourself. Think of it like a flowing stream: the blocking thought patterns like “I am not worthy of love” are sticks and mud. The more sticks and mud that are in your stream, the less your stream will flow and eventually it will become stagnant and sick. By not indulging in your judge and victim thought pattern as mentioned in Step 2, you are allowing the sticks and mud to loosen and flow down your stream, soon the water will become clear. Then you can flow down your stream, forwards and with clarity. STEP 4: RECREATE WHAT YOU MISS ABOUT THEMWhat do you miss about them? Was it their calm and collect presence? Was it their kindness, their love, their boldness, their abruptness, their honesty or their dark sense of humour? Take some time alone and really ask yourself why you were drawn to this person. Remain calm and try not to ramble and list off every possible thing that you miss about them – this will lead you back to your judge and victim egos. What were the 2 major qualities that you truly admired about this person? How can you recreate these qualities in your life? The qualities that you admired so much, offered you a new perspective. It brought you a new and fresh way to look at the world. Instead of leaning on this person to gain this perspective, embody it fully within yourself.
I like to think that everything happens with divine purpose. Everything has meaning and so you can learn and grow from every experience that is presented to you. So why not invite these qualities that you admired so much, into your own portfolio of traits? It can only take you higher. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX Heartbreak is real and it is painful and as sorry as I am to say this, there is no quick fix. Energetically, heartbreak is when your heart energies are forcefully severed. This gives you feeling of a void in your chest, because an energy has literally left you. Feel your heartbreak and learn from your experiences; in time all hurt will pass and you will come out stronger because of it.
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Josh
6/10/2017 08:26:14 pm
That was beautiful. You are so in touch with what's going on.
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AuthorMy name is Brittney and my life pursuit has been that of self-improvement and growth. It took me a long time to realize that I don't really fit into societies model that you need to go to school, find a career, strive to be extremely succesful to then get married and have kids, ever acquiring material objects. There is nothing wrong with this model at all and for those who can embrace this with whole-hearted happiness, keep going with it. Archives
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